Things to Ask Your Wedding Planner (or Maid of Honor, or Responsible Friend) to Do

Whether you can tap your wedding planner, maid of honor, or most responsible friend, these assignments (or favors) will give you so much peace of mind!  Ask if he/she will:

1. Set aside a cocktail andhors d'oeuvr(es) during cocktail hourIf you love food as much as I do, this is a genius tip. When my sister-in-law and her husband took their first few moments alone after their wedding ceremony, their planner brought them cocktails and two of each hors d'oeuvre. It is almost impossible to eat during your cocktail hour so asking for someone to bring you a personal delivery will allow you try the menu items you chose, and give you a bit of fuel before dinner.

2. KEEP TIMEThis is a really basic one, but can't be underestimated since you won't be wearing a watch, carrying your phone, or paying any attention to time. I felt protective about getting four full hours on the dance floor, and was worried photos would cut into it. I knew a late start to any component of the wedding would effect the rest of the night. At a friend's wedding the bridal party was so caught up in chatting (and drinking), they were over an hour late for the wedding. No one ever came over to tell them it was time to go. While this is extreme, ask your planner to make sure things are running on time, and to gently speed up a few of the areas that matter less to you like portrait shots. 

3. Pull you away from annoying guestsNot my kindest advice, but if we're being honest, you may have a few guests who are close talkers, over sharers or downers. If you know there's a guest who will talk your ear off, point that person out to the planner or friend so they know to rescue you "when." There's no need to be a social saint on your wedding day.

4. Stow Your Gifts & DECOR There is no way you want to be held responsible for the decor you purchased or the gifts and cards people leave at the reception. I gave my planner a key to our hotel room and she left everything in the room. It was amazing not to have to worry about it the next morning. It was also amazing to order room service and open presents:). 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Posted on September 7, 2016 .